Exit at the Admiralty Station
It’s not enough to merely seek the truth or find the truth, but we must do so in love and in relationships. That's how science and art interplay. The former is about the truth and the latter is about love. - David Roark, Alien and Time: The Philosophy of “Arrival”
Thinking about you day by day. Missing you. Loving you. In my mind going over the last moments being together.
As Billie Eilish said: "The sad thing is you actually don't know me. And I don't really know you. But obviously we are connected."
Bilhorod-Dnistrovskyi fortress (also known as Akkerman fortress), south of Ukraine
It felt so nice to receive a gift from you - a book. It was touching to get it. To tell the truth, the book itself I did not like, because it seemed quite basic. But I appreciated the gesture and the effort you made to find it and bring it in person. Perhaps I was wrong to gift you that Tim Ferriss book you did not want and could not enjoy reading. So I get it now what it feels like to receive something you don't want or need, but understanding that the person had its best intentions. From book gifts, I'd prefer philosophers on existentialism, like Martin Heidegger or Michel Foucault. Consider this piece:
Are you trying to escape from that fortress, from those walls that you built, but you don't know how? Did you build those walls to survive? Do you feel safe hanging in there? Putting yourself to the world outside might be scary and sorta 'life-threatening'. However, you have a courage to try, which I admire. I've got an impression that you want more.
Or is it simply a little boring to be within the walls all the time? Is that all you want - 'a little more fun'? Would you ever abandon the walls? Would you ever want to abandon the walls?
It seems like you prefer to be in control. Because that brings a sense of safety (and superiority)? The way how you chose to show up, how you controlled it - that gave me quite a bit of frustrated feelings. Was it a game for you, a mental exercise? Did you feel superior and get a sense of achievement that you could figure out some part of me? And did you use that just to play?
|In thoughts about you. Dubai Old Souq Marine, June 2021|
To me, living without walls is a real freedom and the way I am. I don't think and feel that I need walls. Facing a wall is not something unusual, many people do that to protect themselves. But in the context with you, I did not know how to handle it.
Yes, I do not need and want walls, but I do need and want a human-to-human connection. I wanted to know real authentic you. Not you within the walls. Just you without them. But you chose not to show up this way. That upset me quite a bit, made me feel not trusted and not worthy of you. It is a sad place to be. So I got frustrated and moody. What kind of freedom is that if I only have one way to go and that way is defined by you?
Being free means losing the control. Not holding it so tight. You can't control freedom. You can guard your freedom, you can fight for your freedom, but you can't control it. So getting okay being in unsafe and uncertain environments, being vulnerable, - going through such experiences is what will bring you freedom. But who am I to 'preach' to you about freedom?
Maybe I wasn't enough to provide a good sense of safety and create an environment where you would feel comfortable to open up. Maybe you simply weren't ready or interested in that. Or it's both. Yet I know that I was being myself. I did the best I could and felt appropriate.
|Calm water and thinking of you. June 2021|